Dear Right Wing Evangelical Christian,
You want to know how to stop abortion?
De-funding Planned Parenthood might be the obvious choice but its just a band-aid.
It’s not a real solution to one of our country’s biggest problem.
The focus to end abortion has become center stage in light of the videos that are strategically being released by The Center for Medical Progress
The 7th video was the hardest to watch due to the content of the testimony of Holly O’Donnell, the former “procurement technician” who describes one abortion in unimaginable detail.
However, it makes me sad that you are missing the point by specifically focusing on the evil of the actual abortion.
Before I go on….let me clarify.
The videos depict the epitome of evil, I agree with you that they are. The evil of seeing dead baby parts being sold as commodities for “research” is just too much to bear.
I get that!
I mourn with you.
I mourn for those babies.
But…..I also mourn for those women that have had abortions.
But not for the reasons that you might think.
To get the root of the issue…you have to get to the root of the problem.
The root are the women getting pregnant…. unintentionally.
Statistically speaking, the dead babies seen on those videos are probably either black or Hispanic babies.
Statistically speaking, those black or Hispanic babies came from the womb of poor black or Hispanic woman.
Let’s look at a little bit of statistics, shall we?
Blacks comprise only 13% of the population of America but account for 37% of all abortions.
Black women are five times more likely to abort than white women.
69% of pregnancies among Blacks are unintended, while that number is 54% among Hispanics and 40% of pregnancies among Whites.
Planned Parenthood, the largest seller of abortions in the United States, has located 80% of its abortion clinics in minority neighborhoods, disproportionally targeting minorities for abortion.
Ok…here are some more-
Women with family incomes below the federal poverty level ($18,530 for a family of three) account for more than 40% of all abortions. They also have one of the country’s highest abortion rates (52 per 1,000 women). In contrast, higher-income women (with family incomes at or above 200% of the poverty line) have a rate of nine abortions per 1,000, which is about half the national rate.
Non-Hispanic black and Hispanic women have higher rates of abortion (40 and 29 per 1,000 women aged 15–44, respectively) than non-Hispanic white women do (12 per 1,000). The higher rates reflect the fact that black and Hispanic women have high unintended pregnancy rates (91 and 82 per 1,000 women, respectively), compared with non-Hispanic white women (36 per 1,000 women)
Did you get that?
Poor black women are having abortions at the rate of 40 per 1000 women.
Poor Hispanic women are having abortions at the rate of 29 per 1000 women.
White women are having abortions at the rate of 12 per 1000 women.
Pretty significant numbers if you ask me.
Black women have unintended pregnancies at the rate of 91 per 1000.
Hispanic women have unintended pregnancies at the rate of 82 per 1000.
White women have unintended pregnancies at the rate of 36 per 1000.
One only needs to go into the inner city of any large metropolitan city and you will find thousands upon thousands of black and Hispanic impoverished women.
You know…the ones that live in the sketchy parts of town. You will find them huddled in neighborhoods where others look, live and speak like them.
They live in the areas that Christians and right wingers like to stay away from because it’s dangerous and depravity is evident on every street corner, every low income housing development, every liquor store, every low funded public school district, every night club, every strip bar.
Let me also add, they are not just in big cities. They are also in small cities, big towns and little towns. You will also find them in the country, probably living close to farm lands so that they can work in the fields and orchards. One does not have to look far to find the impoverished.
But hey….I know it’s just easier to stay in your nice cushy side of town – where manicured lawns and fancy baby carriers are of most importance.
I guess we should be thankful that your names are on long waiting lists to adopt babies born to impoverished moms who have chosen not to abort.
I guess it’s just easier to take their unwanted babies instead of delving into their messy lives in hopes of loving them and possibly teaching them to change a long history of cyclic family dysfunction.
I’m sorry if these words sound harsh. It just needs to be said because no one is saying them. Pro-lifers and right wingers seem to only focus on the babies being murdered, not the women that provide the victims.
I get that reaching out to women that come from broken impoverished families is just too difficult. Getting out of comfort zones to drive across the tracks, across town, or down the street is scary. To top it off, they probably don’t even want you in their lives. They will probably reject you.
Loving the unlovable is hard messy business.
I get that.
I think Jesus knows a bit about that too. He volunteered to leave a pretty comfortable seat next to his Father and came to a people that rejected him. Rejected him to the point of crucifying him. But he seemed to think we were worth it.
So, I plead with you, if you are really serious about ending abortion, get to the root of the problem.
The numbers I just shared, well…. they tell my story.
I may not have had an abortion but the statistics I just shared are my statistics. I had 3 unwanted pregnancies before the age of 30. My first two pregnancies occurred when I was 17 and 18. Planned Parenthood provided services for me that kept me from having another baby for awhile, that is until I was 29. I lived significantly below the poverty line during all 3 pregnancies.
With no baby daddy in sight, I attempted to keep myself in college but oftentimes I dropped out because it was just too hard raising kids on one income without a college degree.
Even though I did not have an abortion, I could have. Statistically speaking, I fit the bill to have at least one. Heck, I could have had 3.
And in spite of wanting an education and a career to get myself off government assistance, I kept my babies alive and did the best that I could, without any real family support.
I was a neglectful mother during those years in my 20’s. I didn’t know how to be a mother, in the least bit.
On top of my horrible parenting skills, or lack there of, I grew up with 5 siblings and a single parent mom that lived off government assistance for my entire childhood and teenage years. Living off the government was all we knew. It kept us alive. And in our circle of friends, it was the norm.
When I inevitably became a single mother, unfortunately living off government assistance was all I knew.
We were not poor because we were lazy. We were poor because we were. We were poor because there were deep rooted familial issues that kept us there.
It was not until God saved me at 33 and changed my heart is when I began having a desire to be a good mom to my kids. The Holy Spirit immediately began working on my deep root issues and destructive patterns of thinking and behaving. I am also thankful for the Christian women that God brought into my life to show me what a Biblical woman and mom was supposed to look like. It was hard. It was messy. I cried a lot.
But prior to getting saved, during that tumultuous period in my life, the sad reality is, I did not know any real Christians existed, that is until I became one.
I had no earthly idea what an evangelical was and surely didn’t know you had been screaming for years to stop abortions and that you wanted to shut down Planned Parenthood. Every once in awhile, I would see something on the news and see you picketing PP but really did not understand why – literally it was where I got my health care.
As I reflect on what could have helped me see there was a different way to live when I was in my late teens, my entire 20’s and attempting to raise 3 children I never planned, and if I am honest, initially didn’t want, I can only imagine what it could have been like had you driven across the proverbial tracks to reach out to me or the many black and Hispanic friends I knew that lived below the poverty line, had abortions, or had kids they didn’t want or know how to raise.
We might have been leery of your intentions, at first.
We might have even rejected you.
But if you were persistent, and sincerely showed that you wanted to love us like Jesus, the King you claim rules your hearts, maybe we would have allowed you into our broken messed up dysfunctional lives.
I guess it’s just easier to picket abortion clinics, adopt our babies, and demonize an entire system you choose to stay away from.
But the good news is……it’s never too late to change.
Picket the clinics if you feel that is what you need to do. But don’t just stop there.
If you want to get to the root of the abortion problem, get to the women having abortions, and I don’t mean meeting them at the front door of the abortion clinic with your sign and bullhorn.
Get to the women before they need the abortion clinic. Get to them in their neighborhoods, in their problems, in their mess.
It’s gonna be hard.
You are not going to know what to do, what to say, or even where to begin.
I plead with you….
earnestly pray….get creative, and start somewhere.
I pray for Planned Parenthood to get de-funded. It needs to be shut down like the Auschwitz that it is. But that is not all that needs to happen.
If God, in his sovereign plan, does allow Planned Parenthood to get de-funded, please think about the women who are living lives deeply entrenched in outward sin who find themselves pregnant. They will be full of despair, with no idea what to do, where to turn, much less can they contemplate what kind of mother they will be.
Think on this:
And Jesus went throughout all the cities and villages, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the gospel of the kingdom and healing every disease and every affliction. When he saw the crowds, he had compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.”
Pray for God to use you as a laborer for the harvest.
Also, here is one way that Christians have rallied together with a few churches and have figured out how to stop abortions at the root level. Read what they are doing HERE!
Go directly to their website, THE MORNING CENTER and sign up to pray for these mothers, and the many people that make this center going. Maybe you can get a center started in your city.
Disclaimer: From this post, please don’t think I am against adopting babies from impoverished women. I think it does need to happen. More and more. I am not under any illusion that all women will change if you pour your life into theirs. What women need most is the gospel of Jesus Christ, who alone has the power to call whomever he wants to himself.
What I am saying is…..that loving unlovable people is hard messy work but so very much worth it if you allow yourself to be an instrument, a pot used by the Potter, to help a woman see the worth of her baby and encourage her to keep her baby alive. To show her how to be a mother, show her what it looks like to love her child and then see that baby thrive under the care of her own mother, that is worth it. And if the Great Shepherd calls her and she becomes one of his sheep, then you get to call her sister.
We get our strength and wisdom from the originator of strength and wisdom – God himself….manifested in his Son.
If we can remember that is where our strength lies, we can indeed move mountains.